Paul Reitz19:47
Well, I think if all of us were honest, in the moment feedback hurts because most of the times in life people don't pull you aside and give you honest feedback and say, 'You know what, you are the greatest, you are the best.' That just doesn't happen very often, if ever. So usually the feedback you get hurts. I've had some really good people I've worked with who have gotten to know me and they saw some ability that they said, 'If I invest some time in him, I think it's got some rewards for them.' I think that's the other part: the mentors want to feel like they're going to get something from it as well. So you need to do it with your eyes wide open. The chairman of our board, a gentleman by the name of Morry Taylor, he's a charismatic, colorful guy, ran for president in 1996. Him and I could not be bigger opposites, but the adage in life and relationships, opposites do attract, and him and I have formed a great bond through really just honest, direct feedback. Whatever Morry says to me, I'm not going to take it personally. I'm going to listen, and most of the time he's good. If he's saying something, he's on the right track. If he's not, I'm going to tell him I don't agree. At other times when he's not on the right track with stuff, I will tell him, and we can be going at it for five, ten minutes, and next thing you know one of us will say, 'It's time for lunch, you hungry? Let's go.' And it's just done. I think when you find those type of people in your life, family, friends, work mentors, wherever it comes from, you can build a relationship like that where you can speak honestly and directly. One, you're going to get better, but you get better quicker. It doesn't take as long to get to the point you're trying to get to, which is we all want to get good quality feedback, work on our flaws, try to do better at what we're doing, whether it's personal relationships, be a better spouse, a better parent, better at work. But you need that feedback from people that you can trust. I think a lot of life is about trust, and I've been very fortunate with somebody like Morry Taylor, another gentleman Gordon Henry. When they give you that feedback, it's great. For Morry and I, it's a two-way street, and that's really valuable. Most people look at it as Morry's the charismatic, colorful guy. 'How do you two hit it off and have such a great relationship?' I don't know the answer to that, but a lot of Morry's closest friends have told me, and this is a compliment to me that always let me know I'm on the right track, is that Morry with his charisma, you mentioned it earlier, charisma can kind of dominate situations. Morry's charisma has a tendency to do that, but one of his closest friends pulled me aside once and said, 'You are the only human being I've seen on the planet other than his wife that when you talk, he stops and listens to every word coming out of your mouth.' So for me, that was a great compliment to know that I don't have to change my personality. I can be who I am. So again, going back to that, how do you move forward? We don't have to change who you are to do it. Sometimes when you read a book, you start trying to change who you are. You can be who you are and still move forward.