Justin McLeod1:01:36
No. Again, there was someone that I was dating on and off during that period, my sort of usual pattern, but no, not really. And so she shuts off the tape recorder and she says, 'I've got to tell you a story.' And she tells me the story of how she had this amazing romance when she was younger and really felt this person was the one. She was a war reporter or a photographer actually in Afghanistan and they were supposed to rendezvous in Paris. It was like this very romantic transcontinental story and he lost her number and so they didn't meet up and then they lost, you know, this is the 80s and 90s so they didn't pre cell, pre email, pre cell phones, and so they didn't connect. And she ended up marrying the next person she dated, and he ended up marrying the next person he dated. And then 20 years later, she's researching a story, comes across his name, and reaches out to him, and it's like, 'Hey, are you the same so-and-so that stood me up 20 years ago?' They ended up coming together, and they met. And I think it just lit her up in a way that she was like, 'I'm going to leave my marriage' because this guy that she was supposed to meet in Paris, he didn't stand her up. They just both, he lost her address and she lost 20 years.
Exactly. And so she left and downloaded Hinge and then had met this guy. And if it sounds familiar to anybody, it's because it was written in a Modern Love article by Deborah Copaken. She wrote this part of this story in that article. But anyway, so she tells you this story and she said, 'Listen, don't get me wrong. I don't regret my life. I love my kids, but you still have a chance to be with the one.'
Wow. And I was like, 'Lady, uh, nice to meet you. You're a little nuts. It's been 8 years since I've seen Kate at this point. She's engaged to be married. As far as I know, she still lives on another continent. It's too late.' And she's like, 'You won't know until you try.' And early February, we were going to be throwing a launch party in London. And so about a week before the launch party, I happened to run into Kate's best friend from Wellesley, and we're chatting, and she's like, 'I think you should reach out to Kate.' Huh, you know, at this point, by the way, I had written Kate an email every year on her birthday after she told me no. And some of these emails would be like, you know, 'I'm over it. I hope we can be friends.' No response. I think my last one in like 2013 had been something like, 'I'll come over with an engagement ring, please.' It was, you know, it ranged depending upon the year and how I was feeling. And after that one, you know, she had de-friended me on Facebook and, you know, it was like pretty clear that that had sent her, you know, that was it. So after that I'd let it go. And I was headed over to London and I'm like, you know what? Whatever. Like, I'm just going to send one last email. And so I composed a really short note. It just said, 'Hey, going to be over in London. Weird to think I'm never going to see you again. Would love 15 minutes just to say hi and goodbye.' And I woke up the next morning to a response saying, 'Sure, I'll see you in London.' No. Saying, 'You're a terrible stalker. I don't live in London anymore. I live in Switzerland. My fiance is not a huge fan of yours, but I'm willing to chat, so he'll be away this weekend if you want to just hop on the phone.' I said, 'Great.' And then I went to the airport and I bought a ticket to Switzerland and I flew to Zurich. And the next morning, which was a Friday, she thought she was in another time zone and she was like, 'I'm awake, whenever you want to chat, we can chat.' And I said, 'Great, because I'm going through customs in Zurich right now.' Wow. You know, I flew over there definitely having Deborah inspired me to do something big. But I have to admit that it had been 8 years. I had changed a lot. I mean, I'd gotten sober. I'd been to HBS. I'd started a company. You know, a lot had happened since I'd seen her. I assumed a lot had happened for her. And you know, a pretty big piece of me thought we would maybe see each other and then laugh this off and, you know, bring some closure to the whole thing and I could move on, she could move on. So we met in a cafe in Zurich and 5 minutes in I was like, 'I don't know what I am doing without this girl.' The conversation started off and we obviously there was a connection still there and she was like, 'Well, obviously I'm not calling off my wedding. I'm getting married in a month. 400 people coming from five continents.' Plans sent, planes booked, and she's like, 'Well, obviously I'm not calling off the wedding, but you know, we should stay in touch.' And then, you know, halfway through the conversation, it was like, 'Well, if I were going to call off a wedding...' And we sat there for like 8 hours straight. I don't even think we even got up to get a coffee. And then by the end of the 8 hour chat, she was like, 'I think I'm going to call off the wedding.'