The whole point of wealth at the end of the day is somebody has to spend it on something, whether it's you, your kids, you give it away to like a philanthropic organization to spend.
And having like a scarcity mindset where you're constantly worried about not having enough even when you objectively have enough is just depriving yourself of things you could spend money on to enjoy. Again, whether it's material things, experiences, relationships, and like the things that you can spend that money on that you will enjoy are just going to change a lot, like the thing you'll enjoy at 25 is different from 35 or 45 or whatever.
Today, we discuss how to think about money, from knowing when you have enough to saving for a home in an expensive city to whether financial advice survives AI. We're joined by Jack Raines, writer of the Young Money newsletter and author of the forthcoming book Young Money: A Field Guide to Wealth and Purpose in Your 20s. Let's bust right into it. Question one, our first question comes from Natanya Crownford on Instagram. Is there such a thing as enough wealth? I still fly economy, but I can fly anywhere I want. Jack, is there such a thing as enough wealth?
So, I mean, I think the answer is yes, there is. The issue is humans are kind of status-chasing monkeys where like once you get to what you thought was enough, there's always another level. So, like it's a question of like, I'm from South Georgia, right? So, my version of enough wealth growing up is a lot different than having lived in New York or San Francisco for the last four years. Um, so, I mean, my answer to that is like yes, there is. The question is like can you resist the like chasing people who are one level ahead of you because is there an upper limit to wealth? No. Is there enough wealth? Yes, depending on like where you set your standards for what enough means, you know? For some people it's like several hundred thousand, a few million, tens of millions. Um, but it's much more can you resist just like chasing after other people that you view to be a little bit ahead of you.
Yeah, I think about this a lot. I mean, on a very practical level, if you take your annual burn times 20, that's when you sort of financially are probably set, right? And can start to enjoy life. And also, I think a lot of people make a mistake. I had some questions from some people who are retired about how much money they don't mind I asked about their life. I'm like, you should be spending more money. You know, you're not unless you really do something stupid, you're fine. And you got my sense is you guys don't travel. You know, spend some money. Order the good wine. And I think about this a lot. Um, I think hoarding wealth is a virus that infects America. I just don't think there's any reason to have over a certain amount of wealth. I don't think you're going to get much happiness, if any, incremental happiness. I don't think you'll be less happy. I think this notion that billionaires are less happy than millionaires is also a myth. But what you said, what is it? Humans are mimetic in that is we don't think about satisfaction from what we have, we compare ourselves to others. And I have more money than most citizens, but I would like and I stopped aggregating wealth or purposely trying to aggregate wealth after about 10 years ago. I either spend it or I give it away and now, but I still occasionally regret not going more in on AI and trying to become a billionaire cuz I would like to fund NPR. I would like to have more political influence in candidates. You can always find reasons. I still feel insecure and I would love to have You live in a capitalist society. No matter how wealthy you are, they're always going to create incentives to want more to keep you working, right? And keep you productive. But I do think there's an art to saying at some point, I let a minimum want to focus on my relationships and get off this hamster wheel. And it's not easy. And by the way, that's a story of privilege cuz I think the vast majority of people are just trying to figure out a way to save enough to send their kids to college and not have medical debt. But yeah, that word enough is so powerful and it's consciously deciding yourself when is enough and what would happen if I were fortunate enough to get to enough. Any closing thoughts on this?
Yeah, I mean, there's I have two things to add. One, do you know Nick Maggiulli? Uh anyway, he had in a blog post like four or five years ago had a really interesting stat talking about how like, you know, most people are worried about not having enough money in retirement, but most Americans actually are spending less than like they're earning more each year than what they're actually spending down in retirement. So, to your point of like hoarding wealth being a virus, I think it's actually an inefficient use of money if you have like several million saved up and there's just no chance like even accounting for what you want to leave for your kids or grandkids, if you're rapidly accumulating more and more money just from compounding in your 70s and 80s that you can't spend down, you probably should have spent some sooner. And the other point I have on that is like the whole point of wealth at the end of the day is somebody has to spend it on something, whether it's you, your kids, you give it away to like a philanthropic organization to spend. And having like a scarcity mindset where you're constantly worried about not having enough even when you objectively have enough is just depriving yourself of things you could spend money on to enjoy. Again, whether it's material things, experiences, relationships. And like the things that you can spend that money on that you will enjoy are just going to change a lot like the thing you'll enjoy at 25 is different from 35 or 45 or whatever. So, I actually think one of the hardest things is like being willing to spend some money in your 20s when you probably don't have as much knowing that like you'll keep compounding over time, right? Uh but it's tough. It's like it's a very tough thing to spend money when everybody else is still making money and thinking through like our idea of what we're going to need later is always so much higher than what it actually is, I think.
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All right, let's head on to question number two. It also comes from Instagram. j.kim asks, "How should young people go about saving for a house in a high cost of living city?" Jack?
So, I think the first question is, do you even want to? Because there's a lot of people who will move to New York or especially San Francisco now with the AI boom, where I lived in SF last year and the going rate for like a decent studio apartment is around probably $4,000 now. Like that's for a, you know, 500 square foot shoebox. So, the question is, okay, you can make the math work on that, but then you get married and you want to have kids and all of a sudden you probably need at least a three bedroom home, which is going to cost like if you're actually in San Francisco proper, probably $3 million. I was looking at some three bed, two baths in New York. Um so like prep for this, same thing, call it $3 million minimum in a decent neighborhood. And then if you're doing that, okay, are you going to pay for private school? And what's that going to cost? Are you going to have a car? What's the parking going to cost? Like you end up in this thing where you're going to be spending so much money per year to keep up. Like the first question I ask is, should you even buy a home in like New York or San Francisco? Or should you live there to make money, meet your spouse, like save cash and rent, and then once you're at the point that you're having kids or thinking about school, you move to the suburbs or you move to New Jersey or Long Island or pick your version of that.
