Kevin Hogan0:10
Translated into 43 languages all across the world. Thank you very much for making that happen. It is all about you. I do appreciate it. I was interviewed this week for a summit, a woman's summit that's coming up in September. One of the questions, there were five basic questions put to me about relationships and women. One of the questions that was asked was, how can someone, man or woman, be perceived as significantly more attractive by another person? Because this not only changes your first date with somebody, or your business meeting, or the first time you're going to go in with the men, to meet with a human resources person to get a job. I mean, first impressions are huge, right? The pen again. Every time you go out, you have a first impression because you take... the other person is thinking that your brain is a mirror of theirs. That's asking a lot. It really is. So let's just look at this for a second. The first thing that happens is this person here is talking. They're telling us something, right? And usually what happens is that humans are not really paying attention to this over here. What they're thinking about is what they're going to say next in response to this. I did this today and I got 105 out of 200 right on the test. Oh, I got 137 out of 200 right. As if this could possibly help this person stay right. No. And that means that you no longer are waiting to talk. You're listening. And the difference is massive. So we have this here. And what you do is you've now put together, you've watched this person's body language, you've watched their nonverbals, you've listened to them communicate what they're saying. You've asked questions to understand. So what I hear you saying then is that if you do that, this is going to happen. Do I have that right? Yes, you got that right. And then you follow up with, and if that happens, what you're saying is that this will happen in because of this, and we'll really be in big trouble, right? Exactly. They just said exactly. There's two X words that I love. You see them all the time if you read my Facebook. Complete set of feelings, story, and emotions back to this person as well as I understood it after I asked questions to get it. Not just to be able to have a surface structure concept of what they're feeling. Is my goal to look more attractive to them and to have them feel better toward me. What makes me irresistible as a person is that I listen, I ask, I learn. I'm able to get in their head and be able to match it a hundred percent. When you fall short even 20%, even 10%, the person feels that you were not listening. And this is where you end up with those discussions like, you're not paying any attention to me, you never listen to me, you don't really care about me, you don't love me, or whatever. And those are the kind of things that really happen. If you've got it and if they said no, no, no, no, you don't get it, you don't get a cab. Look, it's like this. And then you go, oh, so it's done like this, right? And that means this right, yes, exactly. Excellent. And now you have it. And that is how you become more attractive first time every time. Cool, takes a four, turns it into an eight. I love it. See you guys next time. Bye bye.
