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I have been associated with the Zilla Parishad for 25 years. 25, no, 27-28 years now. I am very grateful to all of you for doing such good work on a large scale. The future plans are even bigger, so that we can not only educate villages but also double the income of farmers, empower women, and provide a healthy life to village people. We need to create Gram Vikas centers. That plan will probably come to you. Let's start today's program. Today's topic, I think everyone will be interested in: how to create a balance between work life and personal life, and how to understand if we are living a balanced life or not. Let's see, we have prepared a little introduction about it.

It is very important to have balance in life. In this competitive era, most people's lives are unbalanced. Successful people are drowned in the ego of their success, and unsuccessful people also find themselves surrounded by a sense of inferiority. Why is this? It is important to think about this. Actually, we are forgetting the art of maintaining balance in life. A personality influenced by success and failure is making life unbalanced. A big reason for this is that we cannot create a balance between life and its circumstances, and we get distracted from the true meaning of success and failure. In today's topic, we will try to understand how to maintain balance in life.

Who among you thinks they are living a very balanced life? Would you like to share some of your experiences here?

Very good.

Very good, very good. Very good point.

Very good.

Very good point. Very good. Let's move forward. I believe, if you disagree, please let me know. I believe that every successful person, every successful woman, if you look at their schedule, if you write down what you did from morning to night in the last 10, 15, or 20 days, you won't see much imbalance. Your day won't be spent in just one or two things. Your day would have been spent in five, six, seven things, and you would have given almost equal time to each. Please try this. I believe that if you want to achieve success in life, whether in any profession, in any field, whether in social work, business, social activities, or politics, you will only get success if you can make time for everything. And you will only have time for everything if you live a disciplined life and move forward with balance.

Very good, very good. Thank you very much. Thank you. Let me add one more thing: balancing of life is also, we can say, prioritizing your activities in life. Prioritization of your activity is also equal to balancing your life. Will you agree with this? And sometimes, we cannot say 'no' to something. And every 'yes' you say when someone demands your time, you must also understand that you are saying 'no' to something else. When you say 'yes' today, Mr. Podar called, we have to go see the Subhash Chandra show, we couldn't say 'no' to Mr. Podar. It was very important work. But we couldn't say 'no'. So by saying 'no' to something, you came here. Saying 'yes' to someone means 'no' to someone else. We must understand this in life.

I will talk about some other things, what are the priorities of life for a householder. A sage or holy man may have different priorities. But for a householder, I will share the priorities. If you agree, let me know. If you disagree, let me know too. But before that, we have a guest with us, Mr. Harshal Vibha.

He left his work abroad and returned to his roots. He studied in a Zilla Parishad school in Dhule area and became a very successful investment banker in America. Even then, he left his life and came back to his roots. Welcome, Mr. Harshal.

Harshal ji, you tell us. You also studied in a Zilla Parishad school and were born into a very ordinary family. You were born in a small room. You had big ambitions. So how did you achieve so much success and become a successful investment banker in America? What inspired you to go there?

New York, New York city is like that. Mumbai, New York, Hong Kong, these are cities that don't let you sleep.

So Prime Minister Modi pulled you back here.

That's true. Our family's children who study in public schools, they either join their father's work or get into some other work.

The real estate price is also decided by how the school is running in that area.

What question do you have for Harshal ji? Harshal ji, when you went to the US, settled in a good position after struggling, and then decided to come back, what was the reaction of your family members? How did you balance there, and are you still facing that you are balanced?

There was no trouble?

They think you will come back in 6 months.

Do you want to become Modi?

You must have led a very struggling life. That's why you reached so high. But even with everything there, you came back to India. What was the one reason that inspired you the most for this? And the second question is, if you had to sequence power, status, and money, how would you sequence them?

Look, the priority of these three can be different for everyone. Mine can be different. Yours can be different. Everyone sitting here wants all three things. That is for sure. Power is needed, money is needed, status is needed. But status comes automatically with power and money. So two things remain. Now, do you want power first or status first? Now, every person has to decide for themselves. Because depending on your situation, you will decide. Now I have money. Status has automatically come. Now what's left? Power is needed. So a person runs after power. But sometimes it creates imbalance because of that. And a person who doesn't want to imbalance his life, gets satisfied with both things and gets involved in good work. Now, what would you like to say to my viewers watching this program at home?

Exactly.

Very good. Harshal, thank you very much. You came on this show and inspired people. Keep doing good work. So, this is how a person can balance two types of life, even while living 17,000 km away and also living here. Now let's move forward to our main topic. For a householder, I believe our elders have given us four types of priorities. First, a healthy body. Second, having wealth. Third, a virtuous wife. Fourth, having obedient children. These four pleasures have been told by our elders in this priority. If you think about it, if you don't have a healthy body, you won't be able to earn money. If your health is not good, even if you get a good wife, you won't be able to keep her happy or raise a good family. So health is the biggest first priority they gave. The second pleasure is having wealth. I think everyone will agree with this. So I said four things are told for a householder. If you have any questions, thoughts, or doubts about this, or if you want to add a fifth thing today, or remove something from these four... The third thing you said, that the wife should be the second priority. If she is satisfied, even without wealth, she will manage the world.

Okay. So as he said, there should be balance in these too. And how much, what, how, this should be there. Therefore, life is lived in two ways. One is, what is our dharma? What is a person's dharma? My dharma is that I have been born in a human form. My dharma is to take care of the family I was born into, the society, the country, my community, my children. A householder's, a businessman's dharma is to earn money. This is also a dharma. If you are in a profession, doing some work, doing that work honestly, moving forward in it, is your dharma. So, fulfilling your dharma properly is one subject in its place. And in this too, it is said, 'Give me enough, Lord, but not so much that my intellect becomes foolish. I should not remain hungry, nor should my legitimate desires remain unfulfilled.' 'Sad' means not a sage, my legitimate desires should be fulfilled. Illegitimate desires, we have many. That means you have no limitation on that. But legitimate desires, which are mine, should be fulfilled. And while doing this, live a simple, honest life. The wealth you have earned, the money you have earned, enjoying it is also your duty and right. Enjoy it. That's why it was said first, dharma, artha (wealth), kama (desire), then moksha (liberation). Moksha will come later, that is the other aspect of life. So enjoy the wealth you have earned through kama. And after that, when you are doing all this... you will meet people like this, from outside too, who have no connection with the world, no connection with a school, no connection with helping the poor. They haven't read the Gita, haven't read the Quran, haven't read anything. In life, they just wake up in the morning, get busy with work, are on the phone, fighting, blood pressure is high, doctor is looking at them. Still, they are on the phone. They are living life. They live like this and pass away. No one even knew who was living next door. Even if he left, it didn't make a difference to anyone. So, live life in such a way that, as they say, when we came into this world, we cried and the world laughed. And do such deeds that you laugh and the world cries. The world should remember you. This is one mainstream of life. And balance of life is also a part and parcel of the same thing. A person who cannot balance will not do all this. So, I want to introduce one more person like this. We call him a change maker. And he is among us, Dr. Shrikant Purnapatre. Welcome.

How many of you know the Doctor? Oh wow! All of Nashik knows you. Now, if we look at his background, you must know. But he is a trustee of Aadhar Ashram. And he is involved in so many things for orphans, for women who are displaced from their houses, and has done a lot of work. He has been in this work for 34 years. He has helped adopt about 8-10 orphans and has married off about 60 women who had no one. A very warm welcome to you for coming to this program and many thanks. How do you balance all this work you do in life?

Very good.

So what is your goal now, what do you want to do next?

Very good, very good. So you believe that a human being is a student for their whole life and will remain so. And even now, you have the curiosity to get more education. Do you have any question for the Doctor?

Doctor Shrikant Purnapatre lost his son two years ago, and that was the biggest challenge of what we feel. So I would like to know from him, how did he come out of that shock after that incident, and still gets the same inspiration to do all the work today, how?

Yes, very good.

Thank you very much, Doctor. Thank you for coming. Thank you. Look at the confidence, the penance. I would say that after such incidents happen in life, even the best person gets scared and deviates from their path. But it is the balance of life that always reminds you again and again, no brother, walk on your path, walk on your path. I come back to the point we mentioned about our life. The second point, why should we talk about spirituality?

Look, today's topic, creating a balance in your life, is very, very important. And the day you understand that I have to live a balanced life, spirituality is also a part of it. Doing good work is also a part of it. Helping someone is also a part of it. Earning money for yourself is also a part of it. Don't consider earning money as bad. And whatever work you are doing in life, enjoying that wealth, that is also a part of it. But if you move forward with balance of life, as I told you, if you still don't understand, I will give you one more task. The task will be to wake up in the morning and say, 'Today is the last day of my life.' The day you start thinking like that, you won't do any wrong work that day. And when every day becomes like that, then you are a happy person.

Look, satisfaction has two parts. One part is that if you have a positive mindset, then whatever I have got now, I am satisfied with it. This is a positive mindset. And on the other hand, I don't want to stop here. The day I stop, progress will stop. That's why I am also not satisfied. Both contradictions exist in a person and should exist. As long as you are satisfied with what you have got... we meet many people in life, crorepatis, arabpatis, but they still want more money. And they even say that those who have more money should have more. But if they go into greed, then there is trouble. That's why I said, keep positivity, and if you keep your mind in the present, you will get even more joy. You will be satisfied. Am I happy with what I have right now? Ask this question. What should happen next? If you think about the future, you will say, I have 100 crores now. If I have 500 crores, I will rest. You start thinking about the future. Anxiety is created. Will it happen or not? If I fail, what will happen? All these things create anxiety. And if you think about the past, you will think, what happened? I wish this hadn't happened to me. I wish I had done an MBA instead of engineering. I wish I had done another business instead of this one. So if you think about the past, it's like this. That's why in Marwari it is said, and I say it again and again in my show, 'The past causes anxiety and the future misleads. The one who lives in the present knows how to live.' With this, thank you very much. Jai Hind, Jai Bharat. Thank you.