SACH : Dr. Subhash Chandra Show

Namaskar. It feels like I've come to a military school. Everyone is in uniform. Looking very good. Today I think you all have dressed very appropriately because we are going to talk about...

Do you need a coach? Or do you want to become your own coach? You want to become your own coach. Very good. Who among you would like to share how you will become your own coach?

Yes, I agree with you. Very good.

Let's see, we have done some work on this. Let's see what we have done. 'Arise, awake, and stop not till the goal is reached.' These words of Swami Vivekananda can be an inspiration for every person who dreams of becoming something big in life. But due to family circumstances, financial conditions, or lack of resources, they cannot turn their dreams into reality. Many scholars say that there is nothing in the world for which one cannot inspire oneself. In our country, many such sons and daughters were born, from Mahatma Gandhi, Lal Bahadur Shastri, APJ Abdul Kalam to Sachin Tendulkar, Sania Mirza, Shah Rukh Khan, who wrote their own destiny with their hard work and dedication. Therefore, it is important that we listen to our conscience because change starts with oneself.

Your point also came up. What others said, I... But still, sometimes we start talking about a subject but sometimes make a mistake in understanding its basic meaning. So, can I ask one or two people, what does 'coach' mean to you?

Very close to the right answer. Very good. So you see, I started by saying that perhaps we talk about the meaning of a coach, and we think everyone knows what a coach means. But here we talked to five people and got almost five different answers. But what I understand is, a coach is a person who helps you improve your performance. And secondly, a good coach is one who knows... I repeat my point, a coach knows that whatever skill, strength, or talent you have inside you... A coach never says that I am teaching you. A good coach only brings out what is inside you and shows it to you. 'Look brother, you have this skill. You have this power. You can do this.' This is a coach in the true sense. There is a big difference between a teacher and a coach. A teacher teaches you many things about which we have no knowledge. A coach only brings out what is inside you and places it in front of you. And where you make a little mistake, he points it out. Although, as you said, the person himself knows his mistakes and strengths. But still, if you don't have anything inside you, no coach can make you a good player or performer. This is my belief.

If we take this forward, I always say in this show that three things are essential in life. One is your knowledge, which you get in your college, everywhere, you have come here too. You have come to learn. Your teachers give it to you. So knowledge can be gained from third sources. Experience is number two. When you go for an exam or an interview, the first thing they ask is how educated you are, what is your background? The second thing they ask is, do you have experience? So second is experience. Experience can be transferred. A person who is more knowledgeable than you, or more experienced, can transfer their experience to you. But there is a third thing which is very essential, which is a must. What is that?

Skill is equal to... Skill is a combination of knowledge and experience.

Who said talent? Yes, stand up. What is your name?

Kishan?

What does talent mean according to you? This is the right answer, absolutely. For you, a round of applause.

That is talent. Good point. Very good. You gave a very good answer. Talent is a third thing. As Krishna said, what you can do, perhaps others cannot do as well, that is called talent. But there is a definition of talent. Talent is something you are born with. Talent cannot be transferred. It cannot be acquired. I had a debate with the dean of Wharton School. He said, 'No, there are courses, we can transfer talent in three months.' They charge thousands of dollars for it. I challenged them. I said, 'Show me by transferring talent.' They couldn't win. Talent either you have in you or you don't have in you. And it is also true that every man, every woman has some talent. There is no person who doesn't have some talent. So the one who brings out that talent, we call a coach.

Now, how to become your coach? First, prepare yourself to become your own coach. This is only preparation. For this, they said, first remove the word 'lazy' from your dictionary. There is no place for laziness in the life of a coach. And if you want to become your coach, you have to be away from laziness. Second, prioritize your actions. Otherwise, what will happen? If you don't prioritize, you will get entangled in activity and action. Because action is a different thing. Activity is a different thing. Activity is like brushing your teeth. At that time, you don't have to think that I have to brush my teeth. Your eyes open, you go straight. That's an activity. You stand under the shower, your hand automatically goes towards the soap, and you apply soap, and your attention is somewhere else. You are thinking something else, 'Today I have to meet my girlfriend. Let me apply soap vigorously.' Your attention is on the girlfriend, but you are applying soap. That's an activity. So there is a difference between activity and action. Action is when you consciously do some work to achieve your goal, to achieve your purpose. That is action. Activity is just routine, you are existing. Many people in life... When I was young, we used to travel, and sometimes we felt like being mischievous. So you are sitting somewhere in a restaurant, in a pub. You start looking at a boy's or girl's hand. I'll tell you a secret. If you look at someone's hand, both left and right, and there is no difference in the lines of both hands, then understand that the person is merely existing, he has no mission in life. Now everyone is looking at their own hands, right? Because he doesn't work hard. He doesn't make efforts. Because science has also accepted that with efforts, the lines of your life, the lines of your hand, change. There is no religion or belief in this. It is a proper science.

No, I say contrary to that. If you want to become your own coach, we are talking only about the limited subject of being a coach of yourself. Rather, you will shorten the time because you know your strength and your own weaknesses. If I have to identify your talent, I have to learn this art. And even then, I may not be perfectly 100% right. But you know yourself what you are. So therefore, to become your own coach, you will rather shorten the time to reach to the excellence. So now I come to the process of self-coaching. First, one thing. Many of us become very action-oriented in life. But many times, we think that I am very smart. We all believe. We should believe. We should have faith in ourselves, and only then will you be able to move forward. But the belief system is still behind the eyes. It is in your mind. Where is the mind? Here, behind the eyes. What you believe about yourself, bring it in front of your eyes. Start writing it. And put it into a laptop, put it into an iPad, and whatever you use. Bring that in front of you. Because when you see it in front, you will say, 'No, I have written this correctly. I have written this wrong.' It can be about yourself. So bring it on a piece of paper in front of you. And second, which we sometimes do for wrong reasons, do it for the right reason. Tell your story to somebody. If you are ashamed to tell someone else, then stand in front of this lamp and start telling it. Tell your story. When you tell your story, you will also listen to it yourself. In that, you will also learn and understand your strengths and weaknesses. You will be happy with yourself. You will have to fix your weaknesses. And because you are not lazy anymore, you were lazy before, now you are not lazy, so you will start acting on it. And then we say, track the progress. Just like you do in your studies, you have exams and tests. Start taking your own tests. See how you are progressing with your own coaching. You will find yourself that yes, I am progressing very well. Recently, I met a military captain at an airport. A young person. NDA, if you want to join the army, you go to NDA for 3 years. They start at the age of 16. Then after that, they have proper training for one and a half years. So he said, 'Sir, when I went there, our colonel asked me to run. I started panting within 1 kilometer. Slowly, slowly, I did a cross-country of 16 kilometers. It took me 80 minutes the first time, and it felt like my life was about to leave my body. My life was stuck in my mouth, as if it was about to go, I would die. But slowly, as I started doing it, he said, 'Today I can do the cross-country in 10 minutes.' I never knew that my body had so much strength, so much resilience.' So when you start doing this, you will start realizing your strength, your capacity. So track your progress. And if you feel that something is not going right, you should not hesitate in changing your track also. You can change. You very well know that if I run after eating, I will start panting quickly, so from now on, I will not eat before running. If one day you didn't get proper sleep, the next day if you want to do any physical exercise, you will get tired quickly. So from today, I will start sleeping early. So this kind of improvements and changes, track changes, you have to have. So this is all. There is no big rocket science in this.

Looking at the circumstances of that time, I had to become my own coach. But when life started moving, I started working at the age of 16. But when I started moving forward, wherever I got stuck, I made my grandfather my coach and learned from him. And I moved forward under his guidance. Thank you, sir.

Oh... Look, life is not like that. You have to trust someone or the other. And remember one more thing. If you believe in yourself, if you have faith in your ability that I will be successful, then first of all, you won't need to ask others. But still, if you have to, and if there is someone you can trust a little, your parents, siblings, someone you will trust. But still, weigh it on the scale of your ability and your belief, whether what he said was right or not. If your mind doesn't feel right, leave it. Do what your mind says. So, it is most important to believe in yourself. Then you will move forward. Yes.

So today, I want to introduce you to a young lady who was a cricketer before marriage. She used to play cricket well. After marriage, she stopped playing herself. But still, she thought why not share her talent with the poor children around her. Why not share her experience. We call such women change-makers. Jigna Gajjar is with us. Welcome, Jigna. Welcome, Jigna ji. Let's see what our camera team has seen about Jigna ji.

Jigna ji, how do you feel now? How many years has it been since you started doing this?

Very good.

Very good. So, Jigna ji, this means that cricket is your first love?

And husband is your second love?

So... He doesn't agree. He doesn't mind that you meet your first love?

Very good.

Very good.

Correct. Correct. Let's have your questions for Jigna ji.

Okay. Jigna ji, my viewers are watching from home. Okay. Looking at this camera, what would you like to say to the youngsters or those who want to play cricket?

Very good. A big round of applause for Jigna ji. Jigna ji, you came to my show. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Thank you very much.

Friends, now I will introduce you to another guest who is a bigger motivator than me. Ashish ji Soparkar. Welcome. He is the Managing Director of Meghmani Group of Companies. In 1977, he started work on a small scale, and today his business is spread in many ways. What would you like to say to the youth here and those watching this program at home?

What do you study?

Music?

Very good. Wow, wow. So today, sing a couplet for us.

Wow, wow. Very good, very good. Proud. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Thank you very much.

What did we learn just now? How do you feel? Since you came, do you feel any change? Would anyone like to share what change they are feeling?

Oh, wow! What is your passion? Will you tell us?

Okay.

Yes.

Try. Don't leave it. Yes.