James Sexton On The Best & WORST Of Reddit.

I'm going to warn you right now. This is a very special cross-examination. Although we normally talk about the various experts on the internet, usually on TikTok, sometimes on Instagram, we're going dark today. We're going deep today. We're going to Reddit.

Yeah, it's not great.

It is the scariest place on earth. Followed closely by X. But we are going there because guys, we're not afraid here on cross-examination. Let's do it. We begin with the 'I donated a kidney and then she confessed to cheating.' A 30-year-old man donates a kidney to his 30-year-old wife of six years, who then felt motivated one month after the transplant to say that she had been unfaithful and had a one-night stand.

Big time. Now, this guy said that they tried to move on from it because he believed it was a one-time thing, but...

So, it's funny you say that, though, because...

This was a Reddit story, and then, of course, some people always, you know, speculate if Reddit's true or not, but there was a confirmed news story in the '80s of the same thing happening. Dr. Richard Batista gave his wife a kidney,

And as part of his divorce, he wanted compensation for his lost kidney. $1.5 million for a kidney.

I don't blame him.

I mean, I don't even know what to say to this. I... I... I am... We are off to a banger of a start. That's all I'm going to say. So, this is very much like the first episode of Game of Thrones.

This is... Yeah. I mean, look, I've had in divorces... common for people to say, 'I would not have paid for her boob job if I'd known that somebody else was playing with them.'

Yeah. And then I've had guys say, 'Well, I want the money back.'

No, I've had people, and I actually had a couple of judges say, 'Yeah, that's fair.' Like, that he just paid for... like, how proximate in time was it to the divorce that she did it? And since she filed the divorce and she had a boyfriend, then yes, we're going to do it. And I've had other people that were like, 'Yeah, no, sorry, like, let the caveat emptor, let the buyer beware.' So yeah, I don't know. I also don't know how one would value the foregone kidney. I don't really know how, but again, our legal system is very interesting in that we do value body parts. You know, like if somebody loses a finger, you know, I've talked about it before that if you lose a certain body part, it depends on what your profession is, how old you are, those kinds of things. So that's why everyone, you know, when they get injured, was like, 'He was about to be a brain surgeon,' and it was like, 'He was a ditch digger.' That's really crazy. There was nothing in his history to lead him to believe that. So yeah, it's a hell of a start. That's all I can say.

How does that come up?

Like, is it one of those things? Are they like [__] drunk together? And she's like, 'You know what? I never told you. This is crazy. You're not even going to believe this. You remember Bob? You remember Bob? Remember you had two kidneys back then? Remember Bob? I totally slept with Bob.' 'Yeah. No, I thought I told you that.' 'I didn't tell you that.' Maybe it's the kidney talking. I don't know. But I'm telling you, that's crazy. Just keep that [__] to yourself. Next up, 'I followed my husband but didn't find any cheating.' A friend of mine works in the same department in the same company as my husband and told me that he has a work wife. That she showed me pictures and videos that she had taken.

Well, so that's where this gets a little hairy. The friend or the coworker told me, to her knowledge, that they hadn't kissed or even hugged, but that there was definitely something brewing there. So, she then takes it upon herself... Sounds like a very vague accusation.

Yeah.

Okay.

Now, back up. Let me just back up. So far, this is a really boring story. She has a friend who tells her, 'If you go follow your husband and you don't find anything, right, you're going to really regret this. I think it's a bad idea, but I'll watch your kid for you while you go follow him.'

She finds nothing.

And now the friend says, 'If you don't tell him that you stalked him, I'm going to tell him.'

I feel like a lot of people have an agenda here because, well, there's the one friend snitching, then there's the other friend pushing it. So, this girl's getting mad. It's not the same person.

I think this person needs a different friend group big time. I feel like they've got friends that are [__] with them, you know, and like pulling the strings. And you keep that [__] to yourself. I'm sorry. Maybe I have a... This is a hot take maybe, but you see somebody out, they're with somebody, they're not... It's not... I'm not getting involved in that.

Yeah, do not say something because, by the way, like the person might... the friend of your... If I saw a man out and I know his wife and I'm friends with his wife and I see him out with another woman, I am not going to say to her, 'Oh, I saw Bob the other day.' I actually had this happen to me with a judge where I saw a judge out, an older gentleman out with a very young, beautiful woman, and they were out at a restaurant and it was like one of those restaurants that doesn't have like a view from the street, kind of dark, secluded Japanese restaurant, and they were kind of off in a corner. And I saw him and I saw who he was with, and I did not even say hello. I walked past him, went and had my lunch, walked out, and he comes up to me like a couple of weeks later and he goes, 'Oh, I saw you in [restaurant] the other day. Like, you know, why didn't you say hello?' And I said, 'Uh, oh, I didn't see you.' And he was like, 'Oh, yeah. I was sitting there. I was with my daughter and I would have introduced you.' And I laughed and I said to him, 'Look,' I said, 'I'll tell you the truth.' I said, 'I saw you.' I said, 'I saw you with this young, beautiful woman and I thought, you know what? I'm not touching this because I know you're married and da da.' And he goes, 'Oh my god.' He goes, 'I cannot wait to tell both my wife and my daughter this story.' He goes, 'But good looking out.' And I was like, a real friend.

But the truth is, like, I've had people that, you know, you tell them something that you think you're giving them some... and they're like, 'I didn't want to know that.' They're like, or 'I'm aware of that, but I didn't want anyone else to be aware of it, and now I feel humiliated.' Like sometimes just let people's [__] be their [__], and that's that. Next up, we have the ultimate gaslight. 'My boyfriend was attempting to cheat on me and I saw the text message when he was drunk one night. So, I decided to send myself the proof and address it in the morning. The next day, I initiate the conversation. He denied it, asked me to show him proof. And when I went to find the pictures that I know I saved the night before, they were gone. I didn't have the text. They weren't in my deleted album. They were gone. He figured out that I knew, he went into my phone and deleted everything. But he said I was crazy for making this whole thing up. I must have imagined it. I'm desperate for attention.' And it made me really question and spiral that this didn't happen. So she goes on to explain that she was like, 'Do I need to check myself into a hospital? Do I need to tell my family that I have lost touch with reality?' Turns out that the last place she looked was in the text messages inside your text where you can see pictures that were sent. She found it, sent it to him, had him dead to rights. But the point of the story was that he gaslit her into thinking maybe I have lost touch with reality.

That's a gas... story. But he also did the like, like the Jedi mind, 'These are not the droids you're looking for.' Like he did that. It was amazing. And almost got away with it too, if it wasn't for those meddling kids. No, he... I Scooby-Doo'd that one. No, he... that's impressive. That is impressive on his part. What I will tell you is I've been a lawyer too long because I was listening to that story and I was just identifying all the felonies because both of them engaged in what's called interception of electronic communications. So both of them intercepted electronic communications to which they were not an intended recipient. So she went into his phone and forwarded herself a message that was not intended for her. So that's a felony. And then he broke into her phone and deleted out a message that she seriously intercepted, which again, also accessing her electronic device is a felony because it's interception of electronic communications to which he's not an intended recipient. So if this was a law school question, everybody's going to jail in this story. It's amazing. Wow. That is... but that is in fact, write it down, that is actual gaslighting. That is actually... 'What are you talking about? Do you have a dream?' Like, and I have actually had dreams that I wake up and I'm like, 'Did that [__] happen or did I just dream about that?' So, that's pretty amazing. That's pretty good. I am so excited to talk about Proper Cloth. I have to tell you, I have been wearing Proper Cloth shirts exclusively for over a decade now. Absolutely my favorite shirts on the market. Customized in every possible way. I like to show a little extra cuff on this because I like my French cuffs and my cuff links. I like to have a little watch allowance on here. Proper Cloth gives you the ability to have a shirt that is perfectly customized. You're not going to break the bank. There is nothing better out there than Proper Cloth. Check out propercloth.com. Use offer code SEXTON for 10% off your first order at propercloth.com.

Next up, we have 'fiancée cheated, got pregnant, had an abortion.' I'm 37. My fiancée is 37. We've been together for three years. Recently, she confessed at the very beginning of our relationship, the first few months, she cheated on me, got pregnant, and had an abortion. I knew about the abortion at the time, but didn't know that it was related to the cheating. About eight months into dating, I confronted her. She admitted that it was a one-time drunken hookup. And I never fully believed it. It kept coming up over the years. Trying to... Jesus Christ, these people are posting all this on the internet.

So, eventually she breaks down. She admits everything, says she was ashamed, tried to bury it, and now I'm stuck. I feel vindicated because I knew all along what happened, but also angry that she lied to me for years. Now, she found this proof through email.

And she says she's going to email the affair partner's wife and tell her about all of this.

I think I got anything but therapy, huh? I mean, these people just go to therapy for God's sakes. Like, not only are these stories horrible, but you're sharing them with just random people on the internet. I can only imagine how merciless people's responses are to this. This is unbelievable. I mean, this has got all the makings of a Shakespearean tragedy. Like, this is cheating, the pregnancy, the abortion, the caught email, the snitching. Yeah, now you're going to go tell the person like that. God help that person. Like, what did they even do with that information? And I mean, I don't know what to tell you. This is like victim after victim on this story. And I mean, I don't even know where to begin in unpacking this. It's full of so many awful...

Yeah.